Just send everyone a note or an email saying:
" I apologize for any misunderstanding we had that day. Please accept my deepest apology. I would like to make amends so we can move on as a family should.
May God bless every one of you."
You are welcomed to copy/paste the above & send it to them.
Please know that by that statement you are not admitting any wrong. You are merely apologizing for the misunderstanding.
Its easier to send this note & make amends with them than it is to continue this rift.
If they do not accept this note, then don't worry about it.
You did all you could.
Then place more distance between your "personal life" and your family life, allow them to be a part of you not your life......I had to do the same thing......it is hard but living to please others is harder, let them go for years.....my one older brother and I didn't speak to each other or see each other for 15 years, when he came back into town for our fathers funeral, he grew himself and was able to put the "past" behind him and see that I too have grown to be a wonderful person, we write to each other about once a month now, that was two years ago, on the other hand, my oldest brother has chosen to hold a grudge against me, I have extended my amends, I have tried to make the wrongs in his eyes right. but I can't change him.........he is now dying and he won't speak to me......I pray for him and I think at times of what the future will be what the relationship between his children, myself, my daughter and their children will be? no one knows.....stay in the moment. because the past is gone, the future is not ours to see and the present is a gift,
Actually I.did what you said. The problem is they continue to speak of me nega tively evenafter years go by. If they see I have a good functioning relationship they come between me and that person.
Hi, I like to call the dysfunctional family I have, " very colorful personalities" that helps me to understand that I am not going to like them all, I am not going to let what any of them say or do affect me. It took me a very long time to come to this point, I would be so stressed before a "family" event that I would never enjoy myself, I hated it. Then through alot of self help, therapy ect. I learned to live in the moment, when someones words would even prick my emotions I learned to say "ouch" that hurt. At first no one caught on to how I was dealing with the bad situation, however, they learned through time that they couldn't hurt me by their words anymore, I don't live my life today to make any of them happy, I live my life today to make me happy, if, my very colorful personalities don't want to be happy in the moment that they are with me and share good quality time, I allow them to see that they are not affecting me, let people be who they are. One thing I have recently learned to do for myself is when things get stressful, emotional. I take the time internally to ask myself, where is that coming from? I don't analyze it just become aware of the moment. And let it go. Letting go is the hard part....... yeah, some times we have to make amends, sometimes we have to just say "I'm sorry I did this or that, and it made you feel whatever......then let it go, the person then has the ball in their court to accept or not, once you let go of the "situation" you will see that the only one that is affected by it then is the person who couldn't accept to move on beyond that moment.
Life is way too short to give any one else power over you emotionally or any other way. Let others be who they are, accept that not all people are growing at the same level as yourself.I hope that some of this can help you
I see your point but my mother told everyone that I threw the tantrum thatnow Ms nasty did. Now n.o one is talking to me.
Tell your mother that God don't like liars in His sight.
Do send Ms. Nasty & your brother a note apologizing for any 'misunderstanding' that may have occurred.
Let Mom know that you have done this.
If that does calm the situation,then good.
If it does not, then chalk it up to a bad experience & just let it go.
It won't be worth you worrying about it.
Hope this helps